If you’re a parent, you’ve probably heard judgmental comments or had people give you unsolicited parenting advice. When it comes from strangers, simply going on your way can be a little easier. But when it comes from family, friends, or people you see often, it can be a little tougher. Let me share a few tricks I’ve learned from first-hand experience.
Preparing for unsolicited parenting advice:anchor
Know that it isn’t easy.
I know that might seem obvious, but it’s true. Any unwanted advice or snide comments can easily ruin a day. Trying not to let it impact me is something I’ve been working on for 20 years. So, if judgmental comments or advice get under your skin, know that you’re not alone.
Don’t walk in expecting a fight.
If you’re anticipating rude comments or unsolicited advice, try not to have mental arguments before the situation arises. Those thoughts and worries can create more stress and steal your joy. They also influence how you show up.
Be confident in how well you know your baby.
You know your baby better than anyone else on the planet. You are the one who holds that baby in the middle of the night, who wipes the tears, who knows their routine inside and out, and the one who is most up-to-date on the latest safety practices. You’ve done the research, become an expert on your baby, and made informed decisions about what’s best for your family. Use that knowledge to give you confidence.
Avoid the conversation.
Of course, if someone asks you a genuine question, you can answer it. However, if someone makes a snide comment or says something under their breath, you can ignore that and move on. You aren’t going to change their opinion. Instead, go ahead and change the conversation to something different or walk away.
Expert Tip: Have a few low-stakes hot topics in your back pocket ready to use to switch the topic. Let me offer a few to get you started:
Did you hear about the lady who gave birth at 70? Can you imagine?
Have you seen that show where…
Did you see that art piece that sold for 1 million dollars? It was a banana duct-taped to a wall!
A friend of mine just visited…
Have you seen all of those different flavors of Peeps out there? I heard there was even a macaroni and cheese flavor!
Keep your peace.
Your peace is something to hold close to your heart. Stay steady and confident that you are the best parent for your baby and that you can let unsolicited advice wash over you. That peace is your gift to yourself, and you don’t need to let anyone take it away.
Keep in mind that the information and content on this blog is for informational purposes and should not be considered medical advice. If you have questions about your child, please reach out to your doctor.
